Dui Bu Qi is a way of saying “sorry” in Mandarin Chinese. When a person tells you sorry, the person must have done something that offended you and found the need to apologize for what he did.
If the person is able to apologize, then the person is able to identify his faults and even be remorseful about them.
When the person apologizes, you can tell him how you feel by replying in the best way possible.
That is why I wrote this article, to guide you on the best ways to reply if the person apologizes.
You will also see the different ways you can reply if you accept the apology and if you do not accept the apology.
Take a look at the 20 best ways that you can respond to Dui Bu Qi
- I forgive you
- There is no problem
- It happens
- Do not worry, I am fine
- Just give yourself time
- I appreciate your apology
- This shows how remorseful you are
- You are still a nice person regardless
- It takes courage to apologize even when you were wrong, kudos
- I was not offended
- I am still upset, but I will try to forgive you
- You have no idea how this made me sad
- Apology not accepted
- To make it up to me, you need to take me to dinner
- You have no idea how hurt it made me feel
- Let us meet and talk about it
- I am still hurt, I need you to give me some space
- I will let you know when I want us to talk about it
- Well, I cannot accept you into my life anymore
- Thanks for recognizing your fault, your type is rare
I forgive you
This is a reply that you can use if you genuinely forgive the person and you do not want the person to elongate the discussion. Just tell him that you forgive him and he should not apologize too much.
That way, the person will feel relieved that he has been forgotten. This is a really good way to communicate to the person that he has been forgiven.
That way, he will understand that he does not need to do any other thing for him to be forgiven.
There is no problem
This way, you did not directly say if the person was forgiven or not. You just said ‘’there is no problem’’. The person will believe that you do not have any problem with him at all.
With that, you will be able to express yourself based on how you feel about the apology.
This is a simple reply that you can give to someone that offended you and is apologizing.
This reply shows how understanding you can be. You simply understand that things can go rough for some people and sometimes people could overreact.
This will mean that people can say things that they ought not to say which could hurt you.
You can just say ‘’it happens’’, that way, you show how understanding you are and that you are not upset about it.
Do not worry, I am fine
This shows you are fine and you are not worried about what the person did to you. You can simply say that the person should not worry about the apology and that all is fine.
That way, the person will have peace of mind that you are not so upset about what he has done to you.
This is another way to say that the person should not bother about the apology, you were not upset at first.
Just give yourself time
With this reply, you let the person know that he should just give himself some time so that he will not feel too bad about what he did.
Let him know that you have forgiven him if you have, but still tell him to give himself time, that could be what he needs to heal from the hurt.
I appreciate your apology
It could be that you have had past experiences where people hurt you without showing any remorse or apology.
If this person offended you and he still took his time to apologize to you, then you need to tell him in your reply that you appreciate his apology.
That way, the person will understand that even though he must have offended you, you still like the fact that he took his time to apologize to you, which is something that a lot of people struggle to do.
This shows how remorseful you are
Tell the person that his apology has shown how remorseful he is about what he did. Some people can do harm to people and not even show any form of remorse. That is what you need to take note of.
Let the person know that it is good he shows how remorseful he is, it will make him be forgiven easily.
When people see that you regret your actions and you are remorseful about them, you will be forgiven easily.
You are still a nice person regardless
This shows how nice you think the person is based on your relationship with the person.
The person may have offended you, but because you understand that the person is nice and he may not have meant to hurt you.
Tell him that he is still nice regardless. That way, he will understand that you still hold him in high regard despite the fact that he offended you.
It takes courage to apologize even when you were wrong, kudos
It is usually difficult for some people to apologize because of how hard it may seem. If the person apologized to you after he offended you, let him know in your reply that it was really courageous of him to reply to you.
This way, the person will be glad that he was able to apologize and that you acknowledged and even went as far as to tell him how courageous he is to apologize.
I was not offended
This is a way of telling the person that you were not offended by what he did or said. You just simply send a reply to the person that you are not offended by what he did.
That way, he may not need to spend so much time apologizing, you may need to cut him short and tell him that you are not offended. This would go a long way to help.
I am still upset, but I will try to forgive you
This shows you are still upset even after the person must have apologized but you will try your best to forgive the person after what he has done to you.
This way, you communicate to the person that he still has hope of being forgiven even though it may seem hard.
You have no idea how this made me sad
Maybe what the person did to you made you extremely sad. That could be the reason why you are upset with him.
When he comes for you to forgive him, ask him if he knew how sad you felt because of what he did. Maybe he will have a better understanding.
This does not mean you will not forgive him. You may remind him how sad you were but still forgive him in the end.
This is a good approach you can use. It is better to forgive him in the end than to tell him how sad he made you and still not forgive him.
Apology not accepted
This is a direct way of telling the person that his apology is not in any way accepted. It could be because of the gravity of what he did that made you not forgive him just like that.
If he is so concerned, he will go ahead to ask you why you did not accept his apology, maybe he did not apologize the way you wanted.
To make it up to me, you need to take me to dinner
Maybe you were once close with the person who offended you, and you want the person to take you to dinner before you forgive him. If that is the only condition, you can let the person know in your reply.
Let your conditions be known and you will see how enthusiastic the person will be about taking you out to dinner if he truly wants you to forgive him.
If the person does not care about you forgiving him he may not even bother about taking you out.
You have no idea how hurt it made me feel
You can use this reply if what the person did to you hurt you a whole lot. Tell him that he has no idea how hurt you were because of what he did to you.
With a reply like this, the person will have a better understanding and he may even go ahead to put himself in your shoes to know how it must have felt for you.
You may forgive him in the end, after you must have explained to him how you felt.
Let us meet and talk about it
You can use this reply if the person apologized over text and you do not like to talk about serious things while texting, you prefer to see the person physically.
If that is the case, simply tell the person that you want to meet and talk about it.
That way, you will send a message to the person that you prefer to sit and talk about rather than sending apologies over text. You both can agree on when to meet and sort things out.
When you both meet to talk about it, the person will be able to understand better when you share your emotions and how you feel
I am still hurt, I need you to give me some space
Use this reply if the person made you so upset that you do not want to see the person for some time because of what the person did to you.
You can tell him that you are not ready to accept his apology and that you are still hurt.
Tell him that you need him to give you some space so that you can think about it. This is a good way of expressing yourself, the way the person will know exactly what to do and how to approach you next time.
He will give you time just as you requested.
I will let you know when I want us to talk about it
This is a straightforward reply telling the person that you will let him know when you are ready to talk about it.
It could be that you are not in the mood at all and you want to wait for the right time to do that.
Well, I cannot accept you into my life anymore
This shows that you may accept the person’s apology, but you may not be friends with that person anymore.
Sometimes it happens, people tend to offend you in such a way that you will not want to have anything to do with a person anymore.
If that is the case, let the person know in your reply and he will not make advances toward becoming friends with you again.
Thanks for recognizing your fault, your type is rare
It could be that you have been through situations in the past where people offended you but they were not able to recognize their fault.
If this person was able to recognize his fault and apologize, simply tell him that it was such a good thing to do and that his type is rare.
Accept his apology and tell him it was a good thing that he apologized and recognized his fault.
When someone tells you Dui Bu Qi, he is only telling you ‘’sorry’’ in Mandarin Chinese. That is his way of saying to you that he is sorry about what he did to you.
After listening to him, give him your reply based on how you feel. You can also make use of any of the replies I have explained in this article.