One of the most common soul-searching and thought-provoking questions is “Who am I to you?”
If you date often, you may have been asked this question before. How did you answer it?
One of the ways to answer this question is simply saying, You are my best friend, or We are lovers. What you answer depends on who the person asking truly is to you.
There’s a need for honesty in your dealings with others so there’s no need to lie or be dishonest when answering the question.
Also, you can keep things simple by being definitive in your answer, using simple words that point to the core of the relationship.
For example, you can answer this way:
- You are someone I’d like to be in a relationship with.
- You are someone old like to go on dates with.
All these responses touch on the core of your relationship with the other person.
At one time or another, your partner or friend will ask this question, either directly or otherwise. Here are 30 best replies to “who am I to you?”
1. You Are My Best Friend
This means the person asking the question is, in your mind, your bestie. It may be though, that the person sees him or herself differently in relation to you. This is only a reply.
It may further cause a discussion on the relationship thing. Sometimes, this person may want to be more than best friends with you.
Hence, when he asks, who am I to you, it can also mean, can we be more than what we are now? It can be an appeal to be more than best friends.
Example:
- Who am I to you
Larry, you are my best friend.
- Who am I to you?
We are best friends, right?
2. You Are My Simply My Friend
If you want the other person not to start having ideas about romance, this is your best reply. You tell him or her to forget any prospect of a relationship by saying they are simply your friend.
You can say, “We are friends, nothing more.” Also, use a tone that is appropriate. Watch out that this reply doesn’t offend the other person. If it does it is important to assure the person of your continued civility.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
Larry, we are just friends, okay?
- Who am I to you?
Nothing, just friends.
3. A Friend That I Place Great Value On
This person may mean more than an ordinary friend and this is what is highlighted in this response. He or she is a friend, but you value them in comparison with family, or other reasons.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
A friend I value very much
- Who am I to you?
You are my friend, one I place great value on
4. You Are A Very Important Person In My Life
You can tell someone this if they’re a family member. Or anyone you are close friends with.
Note that this is appropriate only for those who are sure to belong in your circle of very close friends.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
An important person part of my world
- Who am I to you?
Larry, you are one of those people I consider very important to me
5. An Amazing Friend, That’s Who You Are To Me
This is a direct answer you give to someone who wants to know what he or she is to you. The combination of words here can be used in different ways as shown in the example below.
- Who am I to you?
An amazing friend, Greg. That’s who you are
- Who am I to you?
Greg, an amazing friend, that’s who you are to me
6. The Person I Count On To Make Me Laugh
Sometimes your response can focus on something the fellow does for you or how he makes you feel.
When someone asks who am I to you, it doesn’t have to be about romantic relationships all the time.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
You’re that one person who makes me laugh
- Who am I to you?
Greg, you’re that person who makes me laugh
7. You’re My Go-to Guy/Girl
This is another response that borders on something specific or a role that the person fills in your life. When someone is a handy person, an idea person, or someone you brainstorm with, you call them your go-to person.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
You’re my go-to girl
- Who am I to you?
You’re that guy who’s my go-to for stuff
8. You’re My Boss
Let’s say your boss is the one asking you this question. Let’s also say he’s been hitting on you at work but you’re not the type who engages in a workplace romance.
This answer is a great one because it is direct. It points out the relationship clearly as you can see in the examples:
- Who am I to you?
You’re my boss, Mr. Larry.
- Who am I to you?
My boss, Mr. Bobsled
9. You Are My Best Friend’s Girlfriend/Boyfriend
People often try to pull us into a relationship that isn’t appropriate. If this happens and the person is asking who they are to you, simply lay out the boundaries by saying what should be.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
Sarah, you are my buddy’s girlfriend
- Who am I to you?
You’re my best friend’s girlfriend
10. You Are Someone Who Brings Out The Best In Me
If the person who asks who am I to you is your spouse, this answer is a great one to give them.
Spouses or partners bring out the best in each other, so you can be sure the person will be glad.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
You bring out the best in me
- Who am I to you?
Someone who brings out the best in me
11. You Are A True Friend
If the person asking the question is a friend who has been there for you all your life, this response helps you acknowledge what they have done for you over the years.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
A true friend, that’s who you are
- Who am I to you?
You are a true friend, Larry
12. You Are Genuine
What a way to answer someone who asks who they are to you. Simply telling someone they are genuine is one of the best responses you can give. It validates their place in your life.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
You are a genuine friend
- Who am I to you?
You are a genuine person, Larry
13. You Are Unique And Special
This is for a friend too. Friends have to always assure each other what’s special about each other. This helps make bonds stronger. So if someone asks who you are to them, use this response.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
You are a unique and special friend to me
- Who am I to you?
Greg, you are a unique and special friend to me
14. You Have Impacted My Life Greatly
With this response just go straight to the effect of the friendship on you. Use an appropriate tone of appreciation to say it so that the person knows you mean it.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
You are a friend who has impacted my life
- Who am I to you?
Greg, you are a friend who has impacted my life greatly
15. One Thing I Know, You’re A Good Person
This is an evasive answer. It has its own use when answering questions. You can use this response when you don’t want to be specific for reasons best known to you.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
Fred, you’re a good person, for sure
- Who am I to you?
One thing I know is, you’re a good person to me
16. I Don’t Know, You Tell Me
If you suspect the person asking this question wishes to bring you into a place you don’t want to be, you can give this response. It’s a response that shows you know what the intent is and it doesn’t appeal to you.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
I don’t know, Greg. You tell me.
- Who am I to you?
Who are we supposed to be, Greg? You tell me.
17. A Beautiful Person, In And Out
You can describe the person with words that fit their personality. If the person really has a beautiful personality that comes off in the way they treat you or others, then it would be appropriate to use this reply.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
You are a beautiful person in and out
- Who am I to you?
Greg, to me you are a beautiful person, in and out.
18. My One-Stop For Solutions
If the person is someone who helps you out with ideas or is a great motivator, this response would be an apt one. We all have that one person who is a bundle of ideas.
They make great partners when it comes to brainstorming ideas. The person can be a classmate or a colleague at work. If they have any reason to ask who you are to them, give this reply.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
You are that guy who’s a one-stop solution
- Who am I to you?
You are my personal well of solution for any problem
19. You Are My Wife
This response is for when the person asking is your wife. But note that when she asks who am I to you, she necessarily doesn’t mean this.
She may be asking on a deeper level. You can answer this way to make her rephrase her question. Also, you can use this reply if you are teasing the other person.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
Of course, you are my wife
- Who am I to you?
Sheila, you are my wife. What else could you be?
20. You Are My Favorite Comedian
If this person is someone who is good at making jokes. If the person makes you laugh all the time, you can call them your favorite comedian, in a manner of speaking.
So, if the person asks you Who they are to you, it’s not out of place to say they’re your favorite or personal comedian. Also, consider this response a goofy one.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
You’re my favorite comedian
- Who am I to you?
You are the guy who makes me laugh, my favorite comedian
21. You’re My Lover
This reply works for those in a romantic relationship. When the occasion calls for it, you see people who are in a romantic relationship worried about the status of their love life so they ask this question.
This very direct and short answer may be all the assurance the other person needs.
Tone also matters in this response because just a slight difference in tone can either cause more concern or quell doubts.
Example:
- What am I to you?
You’re my lover, Larry
- What am I to you?
We are lovers, aren’t we?
22. You Occupy A Special Place In My Heart
This is a fitting response for a dear one, a friend, a close coworker, and so on. This person must have been in your circle of friends for a long time to earn them a place in your heart.
You are letting the person know the space in your heart is only big enough for a few people and he or she is one of those people. It can also be a reply that you use to deflect a reply that you think the person may want from you.
For example, if you sense that the person wants to hear you profess love for them, or agree to being in love, this reply is a handy one to parry the shot.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
There’s a special place in my heart. That’s where you are.
- Who am I to you?
Greg, you occupy a special place in my heart
23. A Blessed Ray Of Sunshine
This is a flowery reply to, what am I to you? Women especially love flowery words. You can use this response if the person asking the question is someone you have a romantic interest in.
Maybe this person does really have attributes like a brilliant smile, and a sparkling personality.
If they are also the type of person that lights up a place once they show up then this response is a great one to describe them.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
On a rainy day, you’re my sunshine
- Who am I to you?
You’re a blessed day of sunshine on a cloudy day, Greg.
24. I Would Say, You’re My Pillar Of Strength
We all have that person who we can run to when we are at our lowest. And a lot of people don’t have someone they can lean on in times of distress.
If you have someone who’s there for you as a pillar, then this answer is a great one to give if the person asks. This response is an apt one between friends, and family members.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
If you ask me, I’d say you’re my pillar of strength
- Who am I to you?
You are my pillar of strength when I need someone
25. The Father/Mother of Our Children
If your husband or wife asks who am I to you, your automatic answer would be husband or wife. But you can reply with this answer if you have children.
It’s an interesting answer that can lead to some laughs for you and your partner or spouse.
You are calling the person your wife or husband without saying so. It is also a romantic way to answer the question.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
You are the father of our children
- Who am I to you?
You are the mother of our kids
26. I’m Not Sure…
Here’s a response that might be appropriate if you don’t know what the other person is talking about. If someone asks you who they are to you, you can ask them the same question. You say I’m not sure.
Why don’t you tell me? Use this answer if you think the person is trying to make something out of a platonic relationship.
Or if you don’t think anything of the relationship with the person. For example, if a coworker is trying to start an office romance with you but you don’t want it, this answer can make them rethink their move.
And there can be many variations to this response depending on the circumstances.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
I don’t know Jerry, you tell me
- Who am I to you?
I’m not sure. You tell me.
27. Nothing Special…
Sometimes you might have to define a relationship or friendship. You might even be compelled to use a tone and strong words to make your position known.
If a person has feelings for you but you don’t want to have anything to do with it, you can use this answer. Just say, nothing special. Did you have anything in mind?
Example:
- Who am I to you?
Nothing special. Or what do you think?
- Who am I to you?
Nothing special. Did you think there was something special?
28. Well, I’ve Been Meaning To Ask About That As Well
This answer acknowledges that you just might have been thinking along the same line as the other person.
This response comes in if you don’t want to be the one to say what the other person is to you. Let us say you are shy but have been hoping the other person would ask this question.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
You know what, I’ve been meaning to ask you too.
29. I Was Thinking I Have A Thing For Nerds
It can also be an opportunity to make known your interest too. With this response, you highlight what’s making you consider taking your friendship with this person forward.
You tell the person you like his being a nerd, a handyman, or something you know about her. This answer is laden with an agreement.
Whatever the person wants to talk about is what you have been thinking too.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
Well, I was thinking I like nerds
- Who am I to you?
I was thinking I like girls with braids
30. Why Do You Ask?
Finally, you could be curious and ask why the person asked the question. This is our favorite on this list. It feigns innocence or it may be a genuine inquiry into the question, the motive for asking.
It is common for people to read into other people’s actions. Maybe you have been nice to this person and now they think you like them.
Asking what the person means with the question can achieve two things: they either go ahead and explain what they have in mind or they can tell you to forget they ever asked.
Example:
- Who am I to you?
Why do you ask?
- Who am I to you?
I’m confused. Why do you ask?
In this list, you have 30 of the best replies you can give when someone says who am I to you? They all will fit into different situations that you may find yourself in.
When using these replies be sure to accompany them with the right tone in order not to convey the wrong impression.
Also, avoid using a tone that comes off as rude. In everyday communication, respect is important. Let the circumstances determine the appropriate answer you choose from this list.